Infancy research and philosophy explore “first things,” yet few books bring the two fields into contact. Stephen Langfur’s Philosophy Meets the Infant integrates groundbreaking infancy studies of the last 50 years to offer a fresh exploration of our drive for human connection. He begins with a new understanding of self-awareness, which he locates in reciprocal attention between baby and caregiver. Instead of “I think, therefore I am,” the new research supports “You attend, therefore I am.” The event of becoming self-aware through another is termed a “You-I Event.”

The idea is counterintuitive: we are perfectly self-aware when alone! To explain the change after infancy, Langfur makes transformative use of an old psychoanalytic finding. With the onset of language, a child internalizes (introjects) the most important You’s, playing them toward herself in speech. Instead of the original You-I Event, we have its counterfeit in our heads. Nevertheless, a longing for the true Event persists in the unconscious; individual chapters trace this longing in work, love, art, conversation, and religion.

Organized into three parts (“The You-I Event in infancy and why it disappears," "The You-I Event after infancy," and "Philosophical Issues"), this book will be of keen interest to philosophers, infancy researchers, and anyone seeking new light on the major questions of human existence.

Stephen Langfur, PhD, has published widely in phenomenology and psychology journals. Philosophy Meets the Infant is Langfur’s first book-length treatment of what he calls the You-I Event, in which self-awareness originates and develops through the attentions of others. He has also authored the philosophical memoir Confession from a Jericho Jail (Grove-Weidenfeld 1992, Fomite 2023).